About Compulsive Gambling

Questions and Answers About the Problem of Compulsive Gambling and the Bettors Anonymous Program

What is compulsive gambling?
We of the fellowship of Bettors Anonymous accept compulsive gambling as an illness, progressive in its nature, which can never be cured, but can be arrested. Before coming to Bettors Anonymous, many compulsive gamblers thought of themselves as morally weak or at times just plain 'no good'. The Bettors Anonymous concept is that compulsive gamblers are really very sick people who can recover if they will follow to the best of their ability a simple program that has proved successful for thousands of other men and women with a gambling or compulsive gambling problem.
What is the first thing a compulsive gambler ought to do in order to stop gambling?
The compulsive gambler needs to be willing to accept the fact that he or she is in the grip of a progressive illness and has a desire to get well. Our experience has shown that the Bettors Anonymous program will always work for any person who has a desire to stop gambling. However, it will never work for the person who will not face squarely the facts about this illness.
How can you tell whether you are a compulsive gambler?
The compulsive gambler needs to be willing to accept the fact that he or she is in the grip of a progressive illness and has a desire to get well. Our experience has shown that the Bettors Anonymous program will always work for any person who has a desire to stop gambling. However, it will never work for the person who will not face squarely the facts about this illness.
How does someone stop gambling through the Bettors Anonymous program?
One does this through bringing about a progressive character change within oneself. This can be accomplished by having faith in, and following, the basic concepts of the Bettors Anonymous Recovery Program. There are no short cuts in gaining this faith and understanding. To recover from one of the most baffling, insidious, compulsive addictions will require diligent effort. HONESTY, OPEN-MINDEDNESS, AND WILLINGNESS are the key words in our recovery.
Is knowing why we gambled important?
Perhaps, however insofar as stopping gambling, many Bettors Anonymous members have abstained from gambling without the knowledge of why they gambled
Isn't compulsive gambling basically a financial problem?

No, compulsive gambling is an emotional problem. A person in the grip of this illness creates mountains of apparently insolvable problems. Of course, financial problems are created, but they also find themselves facing marital, employment, or legal problems. Compulsive gamblers find friends have been lost and relatives have rejected them. Of the many serious difficulties created, the financial problems seem the easiest to solve. When a compulsive gambler enters Bettors Anonymous and quits gambling, income is usually increased and there is no longer the financial drain that was caused by gambling, and very shortly, the financial pressures begin to be relieved. Bettors Anonymous members have found that the best road to financial recovery is through hard work and repayment of our debts. Borrowing and/or lending of money (bail outs) in Bettors Anonymous is detrimental to our recovery and is therefore discouraged.

The most difficult and time consuming problem with which they will be faced is that of bringing about a character change within themselves. Most Bettors Anonymous members look upon this as their greatest challenge, which should be worked on immediately and continued throughout their lives.

Why can't a compulsive gambler simply use will power to stop gambling?
We believe that most people, if they are honest, will recognize their lack of power to solve certain problems. When it comes to gambling, we have known many problem gamblers who could abstain for long stretches, but caught off guard and under the right set of circumstances, they started gambling without thought of the consequences. The defenses they relied upon, through will power alone, gave way before some trivial reason for placing a bet. We have found that will power and self-knowledge will not help in those mental blank spots, but adherence to spiritual principles seems to solve our problems. Most of us feel that a belief in a Power greater than ourselves is necessary in order for us to sustain a desire to refrain from gambling.
Can a compulsive gambler ever gamble normally again?

No. The first bet to a problem gambler is like the first small drink to an alcoholic. Sooner or later he or she falls back into the same old destructive pattern.

Once a person has crossed the invisible line into irresponsible uncontrolled gambling he or she never seems to regain control. After abstaining a few months some of our members have tried some small bet experimentation, always with disastrous results. The old obsession inevitably returned.

Our Bettors Anonymous experience seems to point to these alternatives: to gamble, risking progressive deterioration or not to gamble, and develop a better way of life.

Does this mean I can't even buy a lottery ticket or participate in a World Series pool?

It means exactly that. A stand has to be made some where and Bettors Anonymous members have found that the first bet is the one to avoid, even though it may be as little as matching for a cup of coffee or playing in a penny ante card game.

GAMBLING, for the compulsive gambler is defined as follows : Any betting or wagering, for self or others, whether for money or not, no matter how slight or insignificant, where the outcome is uncertain or depends upon chance or 'skill' constitutes gambling.

What are some characteristics of a person who is a compulsive gambler?

1. INABILITY AND UNWILLINGNESS TO ACCEPT REALITY. Hence the escape into the dream world of gambling.

2. EMOTIONAL INSECURITY. A compulsive gambler finds he or she is emotionally comfortable only when "in action". It is not uncommon to hear a Bettors Anonymous member say: "The only place I really felt like I belonged was sitting at the poker table. There I felt secure and comfortable. No great demands were made upon me. I knew I was destroying myself, yet at the same time, I had a certain sense of security."

3. IMMATURITY. A desire to have all the good things in life without any great effort on their part seems to be the common character pattern of problem gamblers. Many Bettors Anonymous members accept the fact that they were unwilling to grow up. Subconsciously they felt they could avoid mature responsibility by wagering on the spin of a wheel or the turn of a card, and so the struggle to escape responsibility finally became a subconscious obsession.

Also, a compulsive gambler seems to have a strong inner urge to be a 'big shot' and needs to have a feeling of being all powerful. The compulsive gambler is willing to do anything (often of an antisocial nature) to maintain the image he or she wants others to see.

Then too, there is a theory that compulsive gamblers subconsciously want to lose to punish themselves. There is much evidence to support this theory.

What is the dream world of the compulsive gambler?

This is another common characteristic of compulsive gamblers. A lot of time is spent creating images of the great and wonderful things they are going to do as soon as they make the big win. They often see themselves as quite philanthropic and charming people. They may dream of providing families and friends with new cars, mink coats, and other luxuries. Compulsive gamblers picture themselves leading a pleasant gracious life, made possible by the huge sums of money they will accrue from their 'system'. Servants, penthouses, nice clothes, charming friends, yachts, and world tours are a few of the wonderful things that are just around the corner after a big win is finally made.

Pathetically, however, there never seems to be a big enough winning to make even the smallest dream come true. When compulsive gamblers succeed, they gamble to dream still greater dreams. When failing, they gamble in reckless desperation and the depths of their misery are fathomless as their dream world comes crashing down. Sadly, they will struggle back, dream more dreams, and of course suffer more misery. No one can convince them that their great schemes will not someday come true. They believe they will, for without this dream world, life for them would not be tolerable.

I only go on gambling binges periodically. Do I need Bettors Anonymous?
Yes. Compulsive gamblers who have joined Bettors Anonymous tell us that, though their gambling binges were periodic, the intervals between were not periods of constructive thinking. Symptomatic of these periods were nervousness, irritability, frustration, indecision and a continued breakdown in personal relationships. These same people have often found the Bettors Anonymous program the answer to the elimination of character defects and a guide to moral progress in their lives.
Who can join Bettors Anonymous?
The only requirement for Bettors Anonymous membership is a desire to stop gambling. Membership regulations are abandoned. Any compulsive gambler is a member when he or she says so.
How much does it cost to join Bettors Anonymous?
There are no dues or fees for Bettors Anonymous membership. We are self-supporting through our own contributions. Contributions to the "Central Service Office" are used to maintain literature, phone service, Internet service, and communications via a monthly bulletin.
Why are Bettors Anonymous members anonymous?

Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of Bettors Anonymous, which maintains the unity within our fellowship. We need always maintain anonymity at the level of press, radio, films and television. Anonymity is a constant reminder that personal ambition has no place in Bettors Anonymous. There is never need to praise ourselves.

We realize that the principle of anonymity has immense spiritual significance, and it represents a powerful reminder that we need always place principles above personalities.vice, Internet service, and communications via a monthly bulletin.

Is Bettors Anonymous a religious society?
No. Bettors Anonymous is composed of people from many religious faiths along with agnostics and atheists. The Bettors Anonymous recovery program is based on the spiritual principles of "Alcoholics Anonymous," which has already been utilized by thousands of people who had recovered from other compulsive addictions. In order to maintain their own abstinence, they found it was essential to carry this message of hope to the compulsive gambler who still suffers.